You’re Allowed to Change Your Damn Mind

I used to believe quitting was the ultimate failure.
That once I said 'yes' to a job, a project, a business idea, or even a relationship, the only acceptable action was to stick it out. To prove I was resilient. To follow through, even if it was killing me inside.

And honestly? That mindset kept me stuck for years.

I carried the weight of careers that no longer fit me. I dragged along business offers that felt “successful” on paper but left me empty. I clung to commitments God had long since whispered weren’t mine to hold anymore.

The irony? I convinced myself I was being strong. That endurance equaled faithfulness.
But here’s the truth I had to face: it wasn’t faithfulness. It was fear.

The Pain of Delay

When you know something isn’t right but you keep pushing anyway, the suffering compounds.

I’d spend months, sometimes years agonizing. Debating. Running endless “what if” scenarios in my head like a broken record.

• Should I quit?

• Should I pivot?

• Should I hang on a little longer just in case it “gets better”?

That mental spinning didn’t protect me from pain. It prolonged it.

The pain of making a decision is sharp, but temporary.
The pain of avoiding a decision is dull, but it drags on indefinitely.

Like so many women I know, I chose the dull ache. I tolerated it. I called it endurance. I told myself it was noble.

But in truth? It was fear of being judged. Fear of what people would think. Fear that admitting something wasn’t working would mean I had failed.

My Two-Year Pivot

For years, I ran a thriving Virtual Assistant business.
Clients poured in. Referrals stacked up. On paper, it looked like a dream.

And I loved it, until I didn’t.

Somewhere along the way, I realized I was living as the supportive background character in everyone else’s story. And while I was completely honored to serve, I couldn’t ignore the whisper in my spirit that said: You’re meant to be the main character of your own.

It wasn’t ego. It was alignment.
And my purpose didn’t match the path I was on.

By the time I had my second baby, I was physically burnt out, living in a toxic marriage, and stretched so thin that there wasn’t a scrap of energy left for myself.

Releasing my client load felt terrifying. It felt like quitting. It felt like failure.
But it also felt like oxygen.

That season of reflection, pivoting and pruning, was the most pivotal for my mental and physical health. It gave me the space to hear God again, rebuild my vision, and channel years of behind-the-scenes lessons into creating something that was truly mine.

Refinement, Not Failure

That’s when I realized:

Changing your mind isn’t weakness. It’s refinement.

• It means you’ve learned something.

• It means you’re paying attention.

• It means you’re growing.

God doesn’t ask us to stay loyal to decisions we made in a past season.
He asks us to stay faithful to what He’s calling us to in this season.

And yes, that’s hard when you’ve spoken the vision out loud, built the spreadsheet, posted the announcement, or made commitments. The human side of us wants to preserve face.

But it’s better to be obedient than to be impressive.

God + Gut Checks

For a long time, my prayer sounded like this:
“God, give me the strength to finish what I started.”

But lately, He’s been teaching me a different prayer:
“God, show me what you’re asking of me right now.”

That shift changed everything.

Because sometimes obedience looks like finishing the thing.
And sometimes obedience looks like laying it down.

When I finally gave myself permission to ask, “Does this still align with who I am becoming?” I felt energy return. Clarity resurfaced. Ideas flowed again.

I had been carrying commitments that no longer belonged to me. And the second I put them down, I realized how heavy and hindering they had been all along.

Permission You Didn't Ask For (but maybe you need;)

You are still allowed to change your damn mind.

You don’t have to keep dragging a career, a project, or a promise that doesn’t fit anymore. You don’t have to keep overthinking at 2 a.m., wondering how you got here.

You’re not flaky. You’re faithful.
You’re not failing. You’re refining.

And the sooner you make the move, the sooner you’ll feel the peace, clarity, and progress that’s been waiting for you all along.

Functional Freeze? I'm The Expert.

Maybe you’ve been sitting in the “debate phase” yourself. Agonizing over a decision you already know in your gut needs to change.

If that’s you, I get it. I’ve been there. And you don’t have to untangle it alone.

I created Get Clear Get Paid™, a 60-minute clarity session where we cut through the overthinking, name what’s no longer working, and build a plan for what’s next.

If you don't want to stay stuck. I'd love to chat and lend a listening ear.
You just need clarity, and the courage to say yes to the next right thing.

Changing your mind doesn’t mean you failed.
It means you’re faithful enough to grow.